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Felix

My name is Felix.

I joined the Australian Army in 1996

as a Storeman Tech Ord.

Later on, I transferred

into the regular army as a Birdie,

which is a helicopter mechanic,

and I served as a Craftsman.

And then I got a little bit bored

and joined

the Navy and served as a Birdie

there as an ABATA [Able Seaman Aviation Technician Aircraft].

I still serve for Defence

as an APS [Australian Public Service] engineer, which I quite enjoy.

I really love my job.

I just don't have to wear uniform

anymore, which is rather fun.

I joined the Defence Force to,

I suppose, get away from home.

And a whole lot of other things.

It was an escape. I ran away.

A friend told me

that if you joined the Defence Force,

nobody could stop you because

once you'd signed on the dotted line,

the military police would come

and take you away if you didn't turn up.

So, I thought that was a great idea.

It's like, let's sign here, no one

can stop me now, I'm going.

I grew up in a very conservative family.

Queer people weren't even visible.

And I think for me, I just kind of

wanted to be able to be myself

out of the eyes of everyone

in the community and stuff.

So, running away and joining

the Defence Force was a pretty cool idea.

So, I joined the Defence Force in 1996,

just after Paul,

probably about four years after

Paul Keating had removed the ban on

Queer people serving in the Defence

Force, they still hadn't removed the,

I suppose, the barriers

for trans people serving.

But I could say definitely

the culture hadn't changed. The rules

had changed, but not the culture.

And so, everyone I knew that was Queer

wasn't out.

You know, when I first joined

the Defence Force, there was often

a lot of homophobia and transphobia,

and then people get to know you and

they're like, Oh, you're a Queer person.

I was like, ‘Yeah’.

And they're like, ‘Oh, you know’...

I don't get that so much now.

But, you know, earlier on

it was like that.

And I think it's just... we're just people.

We turn up, we do our job,

we go home.

You know,

there's nothing really scary about us.

I wouldn't be where I am

without the Defence Force.

It gave me an opportunity

to leave home and be myself,

you know, it was really suffocating.

And so, joining the Defence Force,

even though it, like seems, very strict

and everything.

It was a lot of freedom for me.

I wouldn't be an engineer.

I wouldn't have met my partner.

I wouldn't have all the things that I do

now without joining the Defence Force.

There’s still moments where

I get upset about things.

You know, equality

isn't where it needs to be, but

it is nice being a visible person.

You can't be what you can't see.

The nicest thing is to see that it's

changing. It’s still not where

it needs to be, but it's definitely a hell

of a lot better than it was.

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